Why is my child using me as a comfort object?
Does your baby always want to tug your hair, pull at your clothes, or just be close? You’re not alone – and there’s actually a reason behind this “comforting” behavior.
Comforting – a part of your child’s needs
Many babies use their parents as a comfort object. Skin-to-skin contact releases oxytocin – the “calm and bonding hormone” – helping your baby regulate emotions and feel safe.
Common ways children seek comfort
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Tugging on earlobes
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Playing with hair
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Hand under your shirt
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Sucking during breastfeeding or bottle-feeding
Why it can be (is!) challenging for parents
Being constantly needed as a comfort object can be exhausting. I know if anyone 🙋. Many parents feel they never get personal space – which is completely normal! But it requires patience and small everyday strategies.
Some tips on the way
Here are some tips to balance closeness and independence:
- Introduce a soft blanket or stuffed animal as a transitional object.
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Create small “me-time” moments, even just 5–10 minutes.
- Or try a nursing necklace for your baby to play with. (We know it works 😉)
Here you'll get more tips.
So, understanding why your child seeks comfort is the first step toward a calmer home. And simple tools like a nursing necklace can make life easier for both parent and child.
xoxo
